Rule #2 - Likes attract likes

Being attractive is the most important thing there is
If you wanna catch the biggest fish in your pond
You have to be as attractive as possible
Make sure to keep your hair spotless and clean
Wash it at least every two weeks
Once every two weeks
And if you see Johnny football hero in the hall
Tell him he played a great game
Tell him you like his article in the newspaper

Rule #2 - You might be wondering what it is. But it is rather simple. Likes attract likes. So, if you want to date some one attractive, you have to be attractive. If you want to date someone smart, you have to be smart. Want to date some religious, you have to be religious. Why? Well, if you aren’t then things won’t work. If you are one who likes to get up and go and do it, and you date someone who isn’t to worried about it, there are going to be some arguments. And so it is with any other thing. You like sports, and they hate them, problems.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying if you don’t agree on everything, you shouldn’t date or marry them. What I am saying is that you have to examine character traits. Like if someone seeks others approval in the little things, they aren’t going to change in the big decisions. So, if that bugs you a lot, well, they aren’t going to change for the big decisions. If some one is late for the day to day things, they will be late for almost everything. Indecisive about what they are going to eat.... you think they are going to be any different for a house or a car they are going to buy? So look at the character traits they have, do they match yours? If not, move on, or you better start making some changes.

Which brings me to my next point. You might think, well, I am not smart but I want to date/marry someone that is. Or I am not that religious, but I want to date/marry someone that is. What to do? Obviously we all have our lists of things we look forward in a future spouse. Let’s look into some sound solid counsel here.

“Young single adults ask me ‘What are the characteristics I should look for in a future spouse?’ As though they have some checklist of I need to find someone who has these three or four or five things. And I rather forcefully say to them you are so arrogant to think that you are some catch and that you want someone else who has these five things for you . If you found somebody who had that has these three or four or five characteristics that you are looking for, what makes you think they would want to marry you? The list is not for evaluating someone else. The list is for you, for me and what I or you need to become. And so if there are three primary characteristics that I hope to find in an eternal companion then those are the three things I ought to be working to become. Then it will be attractive to someone who has those things. My advice is your not on a shopping spree looking for the greatest value of this series of characteristics. You become what you hope your spouse will be and you’ll have a greater likely hood of finding that person.” - Elder David A. Bednar

So, if you want to catch the biggest fish in the pond, you have to be that fish. But realize, what is important to you. I know people who don’t care about religion, so, just because a lot of people see that as important, doesn’t mean they need to change themselves and become that. Make your list of what fish you want to catch, and you better become that. You’re not on some shopping spree, you can’t have the greatest most wonderful person and be a scrub. You better step your game up and become your best self, and you’ll find the best person for you.