Truth!

"Rapid Hope Loss"

You called to say you wanted out.
Well, I can't say I blame you now.
Sometimes you've got to fold
before you're found out.
Well thanks for waiting this long to show yourself.

Cause now that I can see you,
I don't think you're worth a second glance.

So much for all the promises you made, they served you well
and now you're gone and they're wasted on me.
So much for your endearing sense of charm, it served you well
and now it's gone and you're wasted on me.

You called to say you wanted out.
Well, I can't say I blame you now.
Sometimes you've got to fold
before you're found out.
Well thanks, thanks for waiting this long to show yourself, show yourself.

Cause now that I can see you,
I don't think you're worth a second glance.

So much for all the promises you made, they served you well
and now you're gone and they're wasted on me.
So much for your endearing sense of charm, it served you well
and now it's gone and you're wasted on me.

I guess that all you've got is all you're gonna get, so much for, so much more
I guess that all you've got is all you're gonna get, so much for, so much more

Do what you must if that's what you wish,
I can't be a party to this
you have a sense that you were born with
You'll find a way to make things right.

I guess that all you've got is all you're gonna get. so much for, so much more
I guess that all you've got is all you're gonna get. so much for, so much more
I guess that all you've got is all you're gonna get. so much for, so much more

This is probably one of my favorite songs by Dashboard Confessional. I think it really conveys what happens in most relationships. I truly think the relationship break down happens a long time before the actually break up. More than that, I think most often than not, one side puts up a smoke screen before truly coming out and saying what is on their mind. I mean, let’s say a guy is really into a girl, and the girl isn’t so sure. Well the girl puts on the front like hey I really like you. So the guy is stoked out of his mind and things start off good, but after a while, things start getting weird, home girl won’t return his calls, the wheels of the relationship start to fall off, and then the girl comes out with the truth. I don’t know if I really like you, why don’t we just be friends, blah blah blah.

Why don’t we just do this. Let’s just be honest. If the girl would just say, hey, I’m not sure what I think about you, let’s take it slow and work things out. Let’s see how we feel and go from there. Than home boy wouldn’t have any issues. He would know what is going on. Things aren’t so sure and settled.

The key to any relationship is good clear communication. Right from the get go. If you’re looking for someone good looking, well don’t settle for one that you think is mediocre, because then one day things won’t be going so good and you will second guess yourself and say oh she isn’t so great and then you will say something stupid in the heat of an argument. Or if you are looking for some to get married to, say that early. Make it clear, that you are looking to get married to someone. That way, the girl or guy sitting across from you knows what you are thinking. If not, well in a few months after dating, you’re going to talk about, and the other person is going to freak because they aren’t ready for said commitment. So, give it a few months or just even weeks, and boom, relationship is over.

The lesson here is simple. Don’t beat around the bush. Be honest, straight forward, and upfront.