Dateology

By no means do I think I am a know it all in the dating world, but it seems to be a lot easier than we make it out. Maybe in my small head it seems to be a lot easier than it is. One of those easier said than done things.

The other night I got a text from a friend asking me what I thought about a guy and some things that he said. I think this is where it is important to realize the fact that to each there one. There is no dictionary for dating terminology. For example, to me, hanging out is a group of friends getting together just to have fun. Nothing serious, no relationship coming, whether it is guys only, or a mix. Hanging out is just that, hanging out. But to some, hanging out is a date. So them asking you to hang out is there way of saying hey I like you and I want to be more than friends.

To make dating a little easier, I think a little more straight forward approach would help. Let’s face the facts, everyone has different backgrounds, different ways of living, and yes, even different terminology for dating. So, to gain an edge on the playing field, let’s quit beating around the bush, and get to the point. By no means am I saying that you should walk up to someone and say, “Hey I want to be on you, let’s get together Friday night!” No, that would scare just about anyone away except a hooker! But you can have very clear communication with mere sayings like, I like you. It’s real easy to say something simple, not to serious, but just to let the person know that you like them or show that you have some interest in them.

Now with this comes a story. A girl once told me about this guy who was persistent about getting a kiss from her and said that if she didn’t kiss him, she would hurt his feelings. After a little bit of time, she caved in and gave the guy a kiss, just because she wanted him to quit bugging her and because she didn’t want to be a jerk. This is dating people! Yes, you are going to get hurt, or rejected. Not everyone will like you, so don’t take it personal if someone says no. There are other fishes in the sea, so get fishing. And realize if you don’t want to get hurt, stay out of the game.

Most of the time I hear girls complain about how hard guys are to read. Well, think about this for one second, just bear with me. A guy asks a girl out on a date, she says yes. Date goes good, no problems, good connection, or so it seems. They talk over the next few days, things seem to be moving forward and then the girl gets a little weird. Either ignores the guy, starts flirting with other guys when the guy is in the same room, you’ve all seen it so you know what I am talking about. Now what is the guy suppose to think? Well, maybe she doesn’t like me, in comes the breakdown and the guy doesn’t know what to think, so he in turns picks up and moves on. Now you can take this scenario in any way you want, but the fact is reading the opposite sex is next to impossible and trying to generalize everyone and say this is how guys act and this is how girls act is next to impossible (trust me I do it way too much and end up being wrong a lot). So for a girl to say, "I don’t know what he wants because he is a guy" is stupid!!!! Can girls just for once, take the role in the situation? Think about the guy. We are expected to do all sorts of stuff. We have to make the first move, ask the girl out on the date, be the first to call or text, and do just everything short of making the girl like him. So, for once, could a girl come half way and put in a little effort? Just think of how much easier your life would be if you knew what a guy was thinking? And it wouldn’t be that hard to do, just merely ask him. It’s not rocket science people.